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September 05, 2018

Life After the Wedding

If you've followed along with me before, you would have noticed that I took a bit of a hiatus and I feel terrible about it. I had a great excuse though. I was planning my wedding!

If you know anything about weddings, its that they are time-consuming, stressful and well just simply a lot of work. This was also an Indian wedding which typically takes one to two years to plan out (mine was just over a year of planning).

The planning process for my wedding truly felt like I had taken on another full-time job. I mean, it became the one thing that I would do before and after my actual 9-5 job. From everything to sourcing images of inspiration, to researching vendors to attending consultation appointments - it just felt like my list never ended. 

I kind of 'shot myself in the foot' as they say because I wanted to do everything myself so I would have full control of my vision (does that make me a psycho?). My friends, family and bridesmaids always offered to help and as appreciative as I was for their willingness to help, I just couldn't hand over anything. I just felt like I needed to do it. 

As the months flew by, and vendors were getting booked, I don't know if it really sunk into my head that I was getting married. I think it was so easy to get wrapped up into the planning that looking past the big day was a bit of a blur.

While the big day got closer I was starting to get emotional and 'feel all the feels' as I would say. I was realizing that I would be moving out of my house (a big deal for Indian/Italian families), living in a different city and most importantly, begin living with my husband!

If your thinking that I'm crazy for marrying a man I've never lived with - it's totally ok. I don't take offense to it. Truth be told - that is just something that doesn't typically take place before a couple gets married in the Indian and Italian cultures. Couples usually have to wait until their married to live with one another. Of course, some take a different path and do what works for them, but for us, we chose to move in with one another after we were married.

As all of this started to sink in everything around me started to become so bittersweet. I was so excited to begin my life with my husband and to live together and to figure out what our 'new normal' would entail. While at the same time, It also made things like my last few meals with my family that much more precious. Or moments when we would all sit around, and watch tv and talk, or even the noises Bentley would make when he would run to the front door were all things I would miss.

I realized that these were all moments that would become memories that I would one day miss. I don't want to turn this into a sap-fest because don't get me wrong, I'm so happy and everything went perfect for the wedding, but I would be lying if I said that this adjustment period hasn't been hard. I've been used to something for 25 years and I think it's going to take a bit more than a month to get used to 'my new normal.'

Speaking of 'my new normal' - If you read my post a while back about learning how to cook, I can definitely confirm that I am now cooking every day. I mean we're talking about a girl who would have rather cried and walked away from the kitchen than actually cook something. So I went from having absolutely zero ideas on what/how to cook to figuring it out and just doing it. My new cooking motto is: Let's give this a try and hope for the best.

I'll keep you posted on how it all unfolds. 

PS - It's good to be back! 


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